Introduce
In today’s video, Miduty of Palak Notes discusses effective techniques for teaching discipline to children. Research shows that spanking and yelling are not the most effective methods, and Miduty offers tried-and-tested alternatives that have proven successful in German families.
Dinner and cultural differences in German families🍽️
Miduti told an anecdote about a German family who invited her to their home for dinner. When my 7 year old son tried the Indian food, he took a small bite and left the rest on the plate. The father followed German cultural norms and politely asked his son to finish his meal even though his son did not like curry. Amazingly, the child obeyed without any resistance or violence from the father.
Research on Spanking and Its Effects 📚
Midduty engages in academic research in a disciplinary approach, with a particular focus on five to six research papers. The first article states that spanking children in childhood can lead to aggression and behavioral problems. The second study was conducted by Ph.D. Gershoff conducted a 2016 meta-analysis looking at 160,000 children over the age of 50 and concluded that corporal punishment can cause psychological problems. Another 2017 study from the University of Ottawa tracked 5,500 children and found that those who were hit at a young age had lower vocabulary, math and literary skills than their peers.
Effects on brain and overall health 🧠
The Department of Psychology at Harvard University conducted MRI scans on children who had been beaten and found that their brains were negatively affected. When shown pictures depicting sadness, these children’s brains showed more negative responses than those of children with neutral facial expressions. This suggests that being hit as a child can have associated long-term effects on mental and physical health.
The Importance of Mom Debt and Breaking the Vicious Cycle⚖️
Miduti acknowledged that parents may feel guilty when spanking their children, but stressed that mistakes are normal. Breaking the cycle of corporal punishment is vital. Miduty shared an anecdote about a joke in which Indian parents claimed they beat their children at the airport with a Punjabi accent. However, this is not just an Indian cultural practice; Foreigners also beat their children. Midduty emphasizes the need to find alternative disciplinary methods that do not involve corporal punishment or yelling.
Understand your child’s behavior and attention🧩
Midduty introduces the time-out technique as a great and effective way to redirect a child’s behavior. For example, if a child is having a tantrum or engaging in destructive behavior, it is important to first get their attention and then distract them. By associating negative consequences with his behavior, such as time-out in an age-appropriate room, your child will learn that certain behaviors result in being alone for a certain amount of time.
Consistency: The Key to Successful Parenting 🔄
Miduti believes the most important lesson in parenting is consistency. By consistently enforcing rules and consequences, children learn what is and is not acceptable. Miduty gives the example of a child throwing a tantrum during a phone conversation. Parents must be consistent and calmly explain that they need to end the conversation and then address their child’s needs. Eventually, the child learns that a tantrum will not change the outcome and begins to accept the situation.
Deal with tempers and stay diplomatic 💼
Miduti stressed the importance of remaining calm and diplomatic when dealing with tempers. Rather than immediately giving in to your child’s demands, use better words and shift your focus. For example, if a child wants a toy and throws a tantrum, a parent might suggest seeing the toy before making a decision. In this way, children feel heard and learn to express themselves more effectively.
Conclusions and suggestions for parents💡
Miduty ends the video by urging parents to avoid shortcuts like hitting and yelling and instead focus on positive discipline techniques that promote learning and growth. They encourage parents to read several books on parenting and seek professional advice if necessary. Miduty invites viewers to share their experiences and solutions in the comments section and promises to produce more videos about parenting in the future.
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